I am hands down the luckiest man in the entire world.
You see, my wife Jessica is a badass.
No, you don’t understand. She is a genuine, certified, badass.
While most wives worry about their husbands spending long days at work, or wonder when they are coming home for dinner….
She has to worry about that plus 100,000 other things for 7 months.
Because she is a US Navy wife.
Yeah, sorry friends and fam. You just don’t have to worry about that for the most part.
You think that your husband’s business trip to California for two weeks is horendous….how about Afghanistan where he is receiving mortar fire for 5 months but doesn’t tell his family so they don’t have to worry.
Or, how about that deployed wife, who happens to be a nurse, caring for an injured Marine that just had his legs blown off in an IED attack at the age of 18. That 8 month deployment to CENTCOM just got pretty real.
Trust me when I say…unless you are a military member or a military spouse…you have NO clue what it means to go through a deployment.
So please, please, please, don’t try to act like you know what it is like to have your loved one gone.
Because the fact is…you simply don’t.
This is a basic tribute to my beautiful and loving wife, Jessica Lawler, who has endured two of these bad boys now. It’s not easy my love, and I know that it’s almost over.
But to the general crowd, just know that you can give the best support by being their for your friend or family member that have loved ones deployed over this holiday season.
Only they know what it is like.
They are the only ones that know the sincere heartache.
They are the only ones wondering if their spouse will be ok during the next sunrise.
They are the only people wondering if their significant other is going to be alive in 24hrs.
But on the flip side….
They are freakin’ basdasses.
They are the ones taking care of four children under the age of 6 all by themselves while they are 7 months pregnant.
They are the only ones that have to anticipate a knock at the door by three military members in their Service Dress Blues or Alphas at 2am.
They are the only ones that know with certainty that their husband will return with honor, from the desert, while having a grimace over their face from what might have been.
Nobody else understands what their husbands and wives have endured from their loved ones being deployed for 7 months.
Therefore, this post is dedicated to them, the military spouses, but most importantly to my heart, my soul, the love of my life, my wife Jessica.
This is our song Jess. I hope that you enjoy it.
Until next time…
Dr. Timothy Lawler